We all do, and nothing or no one is perfect,but finding the imperfections in the

other person is always preferable (whether there is one or not) than finding fault

with oneself.  Critterism , constructive or not, (it’s for your own good) is the

pastime for elevating your opinion to expert, even if it is bullshit and you are full of

it, leaving you blameless and too often turning the victim’s spirit of creativity

into one of resentment.

Whether there really is something wrong, or if it’s just not the way you would do

or say, and that’s definitely not the way I would do it, it doesn’t matter if the

thin-skinned takes it the wrong way.  The perspective of you slants the

view you have of reality automatically, it’s the world as only you know it, or

think you do.

It is the rare person who can get past their own view of  ” You can’t do that…”

to offer real insight, encouragement, constructive invention to someone.

Who knows how many great innovations have been lost because someone

(maybe with the best intentions) told someone else the limiting word “can’t”.

Personally,  I will usually reply, “No, you can’t, you just said so” or

(my favorite ) “too late, already did” but that’s just me.